Just as with your first marriage, your second marriage is a new beginning with your fiance. So it makes sense that many of the traditional rituals and rules of etiquette apply. But which ones? There is no reason why you should not register for gifts, have a shower, or wear a white, full-length gown at the altar. Whether or not you will choose any of these options is now considered strictly a matter of personal preference dictated by your style. Charting a new course When it comes to the ceremony, one of the questions that experienced brides-to-be frequently ask themselves is “Do I really want to do everything the same or do something completely different?” If you were married in a civil ceremony the first time, maybe it’s time to consider a church ceremony, complete with flower girls, a ring bearer, and attendants. Because you are certainly all-grown-up now, this is your chance to plan your wedding exactly the way you want it to be, without any unnecessary consideration for the wishes of parents. However, you will want to discuss your feeling and carry out the planning with the groom. On the other hand, if the formality and style of your first wedding did suite your taste, you should feel free to repeat those elements. Nevertheless, since this is a time to look toward the future, rather than returning to the past, don’t get bogged down with history. Using the same reception site or adding the same personal touches would be in poor taste, so should be avoided. Large ceremony or small The size of your wedding party, as well as the number of guests you will invite, is entirely up to you. With regard to the ceremony itself, the rules of etiquette would be the same as if you were marrying for the first time. If you are planning to invite more than 50 guests, arrange to have attendants (groomsmen or ushers) on hand. If at all possible, you will want to have one attendant for every 50 guests. And Jenny makes three Children of the bride and/or groom are often a part of second marriages. If either of you has children, invite them to participate in the ceremony. Teens make nice junior ushers and junior bridesmaids. Very young daughters can, of course, be flower girls, and little boys, ring bearers or pages. Conversely, if the ceremony is to be small or the ages of the children would make them unsuitable for these roles, you might simply ask them to accompany you down the isle, or meet you at the altar. Children do not always welcome the opportunity to participate in wedding ceremonies. If you children seem unwilling to play a role in the ceremony, you should respect their feelings. Incidentally, if you share custody with your ex-husband, let him know about plans to include your children in the ceremony. Inviting your ex-husband and former in-laws If you and your former in-laws are still on good terms, you may want to invite them. However, you are under no obligation to do so. Consider this as nothing more than a formality since they would not be expected to accept. Rarely would an ex-spouse be invited to the ceremony, even if the two of you have remained friends. Think about it. Inviting your ex-spouse to the ceremony leaves him with only two choices, neither of which would be welcomed: accepting and feeling bad or declining and looking bad. A more sensible and considerate approach would be to invite him to a private dinner, perhaps at your home, after the ceremony and honeymoon. Published at: https://www.isnare.com/?aid=4146&ca=Marriage
The hard part is over, you found the perfect wedding dress and the vision of you walking down the aisle in it is still in your head – now what? There are several steps you will want to take to preserve the beauty of your wedding gown so that one day in the future your sister, daughter or niece may have the joy of wearing that special wedding gown as well! If you make the decision to have your dress professionally cleaned and preserved, we recommend that you take it to a cleaning service that specializes in wedding gown preservation and not just a local dry cleaners. Below we present information concerning wedding gown preservation to help you decide the best way to preserve your own memories. Why have your wedding dress preserved? Stains- Stains cause damage to fabric over time but they can generally be completely removed if dealt with promptly. Sugar stains, such as spilled champagne, or chloride salts from perspiration may not be noticeable now, but if left untreated for a long period of time, they will turn into brown spots which might not be removable. For that reason you should have your wedding dress cleaned and preserved as soon after the wedding as possible. Fabric discoloration (yellowing)- the dyes used in your wedding gown fabric also include certain forms of acid. Over time, this acid will be released as it breaks down which will cause the fabric to yellow. Preserving your wedding gown includes “stuffing” your dress in acid free tissue and placing it in an acid free storage box. Both the tissue and the box will help absorb any of the released acid and keep your wedding gown it’s original color. Bacteria and fungal growth- if your wedding gown is exposed to moisture (from humidity in the air) and extreme climate conditions such as temperatures over 85 degrees, bacteria and fungal growth can occur damaging the fabric of your wedding gown. Storing your wedding dress in a plain cardboard box is dangerous as well because cardboard absorbs moisture, which will promote the growth of mold and mildew on your gown. Oxidation leading to rust of metal components (zipper, etc…)- It is a known fact that metal that is exposed to oxygen and moister over time will begin to rust. To slow down this rusting process, a dress preservation company may seal the box with a plastic wrap that does not let oxygen pass through it such as Mylar low residue plastic. Also, they will place inside the box packets of oxygen absorbing chemicals which will help to absorb moisture and oxygen inside the box. (You may have seen such packets included in a shoe box from a new pair of shoes or something that has been shipped to you.) How do they preserve a wedding gown? Generally a preservation company will begin with a thorough examination of the gown to analyze the fabric, dyes and ornamentation on the wedding gown. The locate and type of stains will be identified and minor repairs may be done such as reattaching any loose beads or sewing a minor ripped seam. (Some wedding dress preservationist will perform these repairs after cleaning.) Next the stains will be removed with the safest cleaning agents suitable for you wedding gown fabric and type of stain, makeup, perspiration, wedding cake or champagne. Then the gown will actually be cleaned in a solvent such as Hydrocarbon or Stoddard solvent (similar to the dry cleaning process) if appropriate for you wedding gown fabric. Hopefully the preservation company you choose will have a designated cleaning tank just for wedding gowns to avoid any exposure to left over solvents from general drycleaning. Your wedding gown is then placed in an acid free box and formed with acid free tissue to support the wedding gown and to prevent excessive creasing. **NOTE: It is very important that you find out the actual type of “acid free” box the cleaning service uses. Inexpensive acid free boxes are only covered with a coating of acid free material which may wear off or re-acidify within three to five years; leaving your dress exposed to moisture and possible mold and mildew growth. Make sure the wedding preservationist uses archival-quality acid free boxes which will protect your dress from moisture, light, insect, and fluctuations in temperature and humidity. You may even want to purchase a pH pen at a local hobby store or conservation company to determine if the packing materials are remaining acid free (the ink will change colors if the acid levels are too high.) Some companies will then “seal” the box your gown is stored in while others will leave the dress “unsealed” so that you can take the dress out to view it in the future. Be sure and discuss the issue of “sealed” or “unsealed” method with your preservation company and make an informed decision. Some companies warn that sealing materials may cause more damage than protection. Where do I store my wedding gown now? Where and how you keep the dress will have an effect on the success of the whole preservation process. Flat surface- If your dress is stored in a box find a dry, cool and dark place to store the box flat with bodice of dress facing upwards. Storing the preservation box in this manner will prevent undue shifting of the dress which may cause wrinkling and distorting the shape of the dress. Wedding gowns should never be left hanging for years because the pull of gravity will stretch and weaken the fabric’s fibers causing the dress to loose its form and shape. The hanger can leave marks on the shoulders creating a ridge for dust to gather on which could lead to stains and if the hanger is metal or wood, it may also discolor the dress. Dark place- Fabrics will fade if exposed to sunlight and other forms of strong ultraviolet rays. From the Textile Museum brochure: “Ultraviolet radiation from natural daylight and fluorescent light bulbs causes damage most quickly, but all light causes damage over a period of time.” Stable in temperatures and humidity- Do not store your dress in an attic, garage, cellar or basement because of extremes changes in temperature and humidity. All fibers deteriorate if left in high temperatures and may discolor permanently. Also, damp cold environments, such as cellars or basements can lead to mold and mildew growth and may attract insects to your gown. If the wedding gown is kept in a very dry place with high temperatures, the fabric may become brittle and fray. Choose a place in your living quarters such as the top of a large closet that is not used very often or under the bed. Not in plastic-Do not store your wedding gown in a plastic bag or box. Plastic traps moisture which can lead to mildew and insects. Instead choose a clean white or unbleached cotton sheet to wrap your dress in or in the conservation box provided by the wedding gown preservation company. How much does it cost? The cost of wedding dress preservation will vary depending upon the condition (tears, stains, antique fabric) and complexity of the dress (cathedral train, extensive bead work, layered skirt.) Pricing should include shipping and insurance to and form the company (if not local), preliminary inspection, cleaning, and repairs, as well as the return of your dress in archival-quality preservation packing materials. We found the typical price range for wedding dress preservation to be $295 to $400. Of course depending on where you live and the complexity of the dress, your costs could be considerably higher. We also found specials through the internet for as low as $75 and in-home preservation kits as low as $59.95. If you choose to use a economy company, be sure you are not defeating the purpose of preserving your gown – the adage of “you get what you pay for” is almost always true! Additional information on wedding gown preservation Professional conservation labs are usually quite happy to answer any questions you may have on the telephone for no charge. The Rocky Mountain Conservation Center is in Denver, there’s one in Minnesota, and there are a few others across the states. I don’t know the phone numbers offhand, but you could probably post to bit.listserv.museum-l (it echoes to the museum-l mailing list) and ask for the number, or ask a librarian to help you find them. Other informative sources are: Your state’s Department of Archives/History A curator at a museum which features a textile collection Textile Conservation Group c/o Tapestry Conservation St. John the Divine 1047 Amsterdam Ave. New York, NY 10025 American Institute for Conservation of Historic & Artistic Works AIC/FAIC 1717 K Street N, Suite 301 Washington DC 20006 Textile Museum Conservation Department 2320 ‘S’ Street, NW, Washington, DC 20008 Published at: https://www.isnare.com/?aid=225336&ca=Marriage
One option is to start your search for the perfect dress close to home. Maybe your mother, grandmother, aunt or a special friend has her own lovely dress stored carefully away, waiting for another bride to wear. If you choose this option, examine the dress carefully for insect damage, discoloration, weak seams, missing buttons and stains. Consult a trusted dry cleaner to discover if spots or stains can be removed. If the dress’s seams are very narrow, alterations might be difficult. Air the dress away from the sun to rid it of cedar or mothball scents. Have it professionally cleaned. As sentimental as this option is, most brides want a new dress. If you’re in this category, begin by doing a little window-shopping. Check out the latest bridal magazines for trends and styles. Keep a folder or envelope containing pictures of the dresses you like. This will be helpful when you actually visit a retailer to begin trying dresses on. Be sure to attend bridal and fashion shows. You’ll not only get a good overview of what’s available, but you’ll pick up new ideas and get information on bridal shops in your area. Then check out the shops. Get recommendations from married friends and call the Better Business Bureau. And pay attention! You should be treated like a queen when you enter a bridal shop. According to one shop owner, the store’s first priority should be to make you “feel personally special from the minute you walk in the door.” Once on your quest for the perfect gown, choose one trusted person who knows your style to take with you. The more people you bring along, the more opinions you’ll have to sift through. Your trusted person should care enough about you to tell the absolute truth about how a dress looks on you. Your trust should extend to the bridal shop clerk, too. Many of these people have spent years helping brides find the right dress. They know which styles will flatter which figure types. Trust them, and don’t be afraid to be adventurous. If a clerk suggests a style different from what you had in mind, try it on anyway! You may be surprised at how other styles flatter your figure. Sometimes the retail dress route just doesn’t fit. A bride who is especially tall or short, tiny or voluptuous, rich or poor can find the custom-made dress an answer to a prayer. Locate a reputable bridal seamstress in your area by word of mouth, through a high-quality fabric or sewing store, or through a local college, university or theater. Ask to see samples of the seamstress’s work, both in photos and in person. Check for finished seams, fit (in photos of brides) and quality of materials. Ask for an estimate in writing, checking to see if the seamstress or the bride supplies the materials and notions for the dress. Is a veil included in the price? Call past clients to check how satisfied they were with their dresses. Published at: https://www.isnare.com/?aid=200629&ca=Marriage
From Appalachia to the Potomac River, Virginia is diverse as it is rich with history. Revolutionary and Civil War battlegrounds rub shoulders with thriving urban centers and peaceful outdoor sanctuaries. Richmond, Virginia Beach and Arlington are the main points of entry, as well as the northeast neighbors of Washington D.C. and Maryland. Virginia in the Books Virginia is also certain to brush up your United States history, as eight Presidents were born here including George Washington, Thomas Jefferson and James Madison. Mount Vernon was the home and plantation of George Washington, located on the Potomac River just south of Arlington and Washington D.C. Enjoy the expansive grounds, oceanfront walking paths and stables as well as a new giftshop and quaint colonial restaurant serving traditional food as well as some of George and Martha’s favorites. In Richmond, the Virginia State Capitol Building was designed by Thomas Jefferson and the University of Virginia in Charlottesville was founded by the former President as well. You will also encounter more Revolutionary battlefields in Virginia than any other state. The Yorktown peninsula is the site of the famous battle that ended the Revolutionary War. During the Civil War, Richmond was not only the capital of Virginia but also of the Confederated States. Become surrounded by one of the great moments in United States history at the Appomattox Court House, the site of the Confederate surrender to the Union that ended the Civil War. Travel to Virginia’s northeast county of Arlington to pay respects to some of the great heroes of the nation at Arlington National Cemetery, including the Challenger Space Shuttle Mission, numerous Supreme Court Justices, the Kennedy family and even the mast of the sunken USS Maine from the Spanish-American War. Voyage Beyond the Virginian Veneer Once you’ve had your fill of history, get outdoors into some of the most breathtaking scenery on the Eastern Seaboard. The resort city of Virginia Beach is one of the most popular destinations along Chesapeake Bay. At your own leisurely pace, discover the many wildlife refuges, wildflowers, aquariums and seafood restaurants along the stretches of beach. Check out the First Landing Cross as well, the point where English settlers landed in 1607. Spanning west across the Piedmont region, you will finally come to the Appalachian ranges, cooler temperatures and forested hillsides. The Shenandoah Valley plunges gloriously between the Blue Ridge Mountains and the Allegheny Mountains and offers unlimited outdoor adventure as well as endless Civil War stories. Discover why Virginia is truly for lovers… of everything! Published at: https://www.isnare.com/?aid=120094&ca=Travel
Here is the situation: you are invited to the wedding of a friend. And it’s during the daytime. Well, she is not your bestie but you are friendly to each other. You are not invited to be her bridesmaid but that’s OK. So now you need a formal dressing style to attend this wedding. So what now? What are you planning to wear? And which shoes will match? What about accessories and purse? And what make-ups to wear? Not even a clue? OK then, let’s try it out within this article! First try to focus whether it is a formal invitation itself: are you invited with sheer formality? Or it is a casual talk between friends at a casual time. If it is formal, then your costume has to be formal too, so as to show your respect to the host. Colors of white, yellow and pink harmonized in attires give you the perfect picture of your deck up for attending a daytime wedding. The choice of your dress would also depend on the nature of the occasion and the destination of the wedding. Choosing Dress If you are attending a formal ceremony, then it would be preferable to wear a long flowing gown with a halter neck. No matter if it’s an A-cut gown or a fish cut gown, you can keep the back cut deep or attach fine straps at the back. Men can wear formal pants with full sleeved shirts. Tuxedos complement daytime winter weddings. A formal black suit is probably the classiest of all. If you are to attend a daytime wedding, which is more formal than a casual beach ceremony, then you are preferable to choose a long gown which is soft and flowing while walking. Long gowns can be very charming and sexy with a deep cut on the back or vimineous straps at the back. For men, a formal suit is always the least to make mistake. A black formal suit seems classic and gentleman. Inside the suit, you can choose a long sleeved shirt with light color for him. To add more style to your male partner, you can choose to put a corsage handkerchief in the left pocket of his coat. For casual informal weddings like evening party weddings, beach weddings and tropical weddings, you should correspondingly choose more relaxing style. A cocktail dress, sheath dress, pinched dress, laced frock, and skirt, which are made of cotton, chiffon, or satin are all good choices for attending such occasions. Besides the ready-to-wear shopping choices, you may also DIY your stylish dress all by yourself. Decorate the edges with ribbons, laces and frills will make it more fun. While a fine embroidery work on your dress would also uplift its elegance, a hotfix rhinestone transfer design to be put on the front or back of your dress can make the whole layout more bling, shiny and cute. An unofficial wedding ceremony calls for leisure style so men can put on a pair of casual jeans with a semi-formal or a casual Tee or a shirt while attending informal wedding ceremonies. Footwear Matching Now you have resolved the most important part of the dressing, but a wrongly matched footwear will bring down your taste of fashion no matter how perfect the rest wearing is. So to correctly pair your superb gown, you can choose a pair of stilettos. It should be simple but will show classic and elegant. Remember not to put on bling dazzling shoes for the daytime formal wedding. Walking with classy stilettos makes your steps graceful while the long gown makes your movement light and gentle. Men can choose their shoes according to the color of their belt. And formal leather shoes is the best to attend formal weddings. A mistaken paired footwear shows your lack sense of style. So if your belt is black, don’t choose any other colors of your shoes than black. Brown belt matches well with shoes with nearest colors to the shade of brown. For informal wedding gathering, On informal wedding ceremonies, men can freely wear casual shoes of a pair of loafers, leather slip-on, sneakers or canvas. And for ladies, we can make the best use of strapped sandals and ballerinas on beach weddings. To match your cute skirts and sexy frocks, you can also put on kitten heeled shoes. Either a moderate sexy style or a elegant princess taste is popular. More to come in the article next week! Published at: https://www.isnare.com/?aid=1900722&ca=Marriage
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